Positive affirmations are great. Positive affirmations for Moms … amazing.
They can help bring the chaos of parenthood into perspective, remind Mom she’s winning and keep family goals in focus.
The thing is, affirmations only work if you actually believe what you’re saying.
For a while, I was using the positive affirmation “My house is clean.” This is a great affirmation. It should have helped me find peace with the state of my house, making it easier to focus on other things like quality time with my kids.
However, when the thought “My house is clean” crosses my mind it’s followed by a stream of resistance.
My house is clean…
but there are still smudges on the window where the kids were writing fog messages to each other.
My house is clean…
but the paints are still spread all over the table from the last burst of inspiration.
My house is clean…
but there’s dog hair on the couch.
My house is clean, doesn’t feel true to me. It can’t work as an affirmation for me because I just don’t believe it.
The best way to make sure an affirmation is going to work is to create it yourself.
In order to create a positive affirmation that would really help improve the way I felt about my house, I had to dig in a bit.
First, I spent some time thinking about why having a clean house matters to me and what a clean house means for our family.
I like to journal things like this.
Reading over my thoughts, the answer became clear. I want our house to be full of joy, love, and family. I want our house clean enough for us to live, love and create in it.
From there I created an affirmation that was clear and easy to repeat.
Our home is full of love, creativity, and puppy. It’s clean enough for us to live, love and create.
The last step was to say it out loud. Does it feel true? Yep.
What about the stream of resistance?
There are still smudges on the window where the kids were writing fog messages to each other. That was such a fun moment of connecting and silliness. Glad the window was clean enough to have the blinds open.
The paints are still spread out over the table from the last burst of inspiration. Wow, what a burst of inspiration it was… she may actually come back to it. Glad the art table was clean enough for her to start in the first place.
There is dog hair on the couch. In our house, doggy snuggles make everything a little happier… dog hair is evidence of love.
Now, this affirmation feels true to me. It puts me in just the right mindset to let go of cleaning and focus on other important things… like adjusting our screen time rules.
How To Create Positive Affirmations
Click Here to Print the Positive Affirmation Worksheet
- Start by picking a topic for your affirmation. This might be an area where you could use a confidence boost. It might be something you are intentionally focusing on right now.
- Now, spend some time thinking about (or writing about) why this is important to you. What would be different if your mindset was more positive where this is concerned?
- Once you have a clear understanding of what you want this affirmation to accomplish, create one or two sentences, to sum up.
- Next, say your new affirmation out loud. Does it sound true? If not ask yourself why that is. Continue tweaking and reevaluating until you believe the affirmation.
- Finally, write this newly created affirmation somewhere that you will see it when you most need it. Maybe in your planner or on your fridge. You can even take a picture to use as your phone screen saver.
Share your newly created affirmation for Mom in the comment section! You just might inspire another Mom in need of a mindset adjustment.