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Teaching Kids Responsibility (while making your life easier!)

By Jillian | July 2, 2014
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Our family has been extremely busy. Hubby and I are self-employed and still in the building phase of our businesses. That means a lot of extra hours.  Add that to a super fun summer bucket list begging to be used, and we don’t have much time (or energy) for family chores. We’ve been giving the kids more and more responsibility in our daily chores. Of course, teaching the kids responsibility is awesome, but it also helps us out a ton. (Win win!)
3 tips for teaching kids responsibility (while making your life easier.... shhh!)

Teaching Kids Responsibility by Including Them in the Process

Problem #1: Folding laundry was a four-step process. Laundry is one of my least favorite things to do. Handing over part of that chore was first on my list. Our washer and dryer are downstairs and our rooms are upstairs. Folding laundry used to be a four-step process for me (no wonder I dreaded it). I would wash and fold the laundry downstairs. Then put it in the laundry basket and then take it upstairs. After laying all the folded clothes on the bed I would put everyone’s clothes away. You know when you have a light bulb moment and suddenly the solution seems so clear? That’s what happened here. Why was I moving the folded laundry three times?

Solution: Cut the process in half (and give away part of the work). Our new laundry process is a dream and almost gets me excited about laundry day. I start by sorting, washing and folding. (I will give away more of the responsibility as the kids get older, but for now this works). When I take a load of laundry out of the dryer I take it straight upstairs. I fold the clothes and place them in piles on my bed. After all the laundry is done (usually at the end of the day) everyone puts their own clothes away. Even Hubby!

What the kids are learning: The kids are getting two great lessons here: that team work makes the job easier and how to organize their drawers.

Problem #2: The kids could not reach their dishes.  M and M can prepare some of their meals (and almost all of their snacks) which helps me out a lot. The way our cabinets were stacked all the kids dishes were stacked out of reach. Even when they did prepare something I had to be there to grab stuff for them.

Solution: Move the dishes. This solution was easy and obvious. All of the kids’ plates, bowls and cups are now in the bottom shelves. YAY!

What the kids are learning: This is my favorite change. Hubby loves to cook and experiment in the kitchen. Allowing Big M freedom to get creative with scrambled eggs all on his own is going to give him confidence in the kitchen. Knowing how to cook is a life skill everyone needs!

Problem #3: Nagging Mom. Day one of summer break I gave the kids a small list of chores. They whined, complained and dragged their feet. I nagged, complained and threatened. AHHH! Not my finest moment. I quickly decided that this would not be the way our summer would go.

Solution: Pass the responsibility of getting it done… to the ones who need to get it done. After rounding up their clipboards, a piece of paper, some colored pencils and clothespins, I made a to-do list for each kid. It was simple. A list of three things that needed to be done followed by a list of three things I knew they wanted to do. I told them both that once the three top things were done, they were free to do the three bottom things.

What the kids are learning: By allowing the kids to be in charge of their chores they take on the responsibility of when and how it gets done. Time management is a great skill to have! These simple tricks are making my life SO much easier and giving the kids a little lesson in responsibility.

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  1. Nina says

    July 2, 2014 at 8:15 am

    I am all about letting the kids chip in on chores that they can do themselves. Snack time has been much easier now that my kiddo can get most of his snacks himself. He also dresses himself which is a big time saver (I mean, faster if I do it but at least I get to do something else while he dresses himself, even if it’s super slow). Oh and no need to enter me in your contest; I just wanted to chime in on the discussion 🙂

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  2. Erika says

    July 2, 2014 at 11:54 am

    I try to have dinner ready before we call the kids to the table, and get the bath ready before I tell them it’s time for one- doing things ahead of time helps our family a lot!

    chambanachik(at)gmail(dot)com

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  3. Natalie says

    July 2, 2014 at 1:07 pm

    I try to get my nephew more involved in cooking dinner and teach him to clean up after himself and wash the dishes afterward.

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  4. Natalie says

    July 2, 2014 at 1:11 pm

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  5. heather says

    July 2, 2014 at 6:01 pm

    I think its great to have a nice reward when teaching your kids responsibility.

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  6. Brooke says

    July 3, 2014 at 4:57 am

    I have a “Job List” printed up on the fridge for my eldest who is 4. Each day he goes through the list, feed the dog, help put laundry in or out, water plants, pick up room, summer reading, pick up toys at end of day, help with cook dinner and I also leave Clorox wipes next to his toilet for any “spills” he may have. He enjoys checking off the jobs one by one and at the end of a 7 day week he gets 5 cents for every task completed. Each one helps a ton with having three small kidddos.

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  7. courtney b says

    July 3, 2014 at 10:07 am

    i try to create a schedule for myself and stick to it. i dont get side tracked and try no to let things slow me down like other stresses in my life.

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  8. courtney b says

    July 3, 2014 at 10:08 am

    tweet

    https://twitter.com/MeandBells/status/484745318387310593

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  9. Wanda McHenry says

    July 4, 2014 at 2:52 am

    I actually don’t have a care in the world. I don’t work and retired early and my day is care-free, simple and our lives are happy.

    Reply
  10. Wanda McHenry says

    July 4, 2014 at 2:54 am

    https://twitter.com/myfolly/status/484998545372487681

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  11. Susan Smith says

    July 4, 2014 at 1:16 pm

    I make a lot of lists of the things that I need to get done during the day so I keep organized and ask for help from my family if I need it.

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  12. Susan Smith says

    July 4, 2014 at 1:17 pm

    https://twitter.com/susan1215/status/485155425499631616

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  13. amy pugmire says

    July 4, 2014 at 11:13 pm

    I have the kids do chores and clean the night before. I have them line up clothes and anything they will need for the next day if we have plans.

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  14. amy pugmire says

    July 4, 2014 at 11:13 pm

    https://twitter.com/1amypugmire/status/485305534023618561

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  15. Lara says

    July 5, 2014 at 11:17 am

    I’m learning that I have to keep things new and exciting for the kids. Every summer I change the way our chore/rewards systems work so that they are eager to participate.

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  16. D Schmidt says

    July 6, 2014 at 3:13 pm

    We plan ahead a lot and try to prepare for everything (as best we can) For example, I take a spare change of clothes for my children for the beach, lots of snacks and an emergency first aid kit.

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  17. D Schmidt says

    July 6, 2014 at 3:14 pm

    Tweeted

    https://twitter.com/mummytotwoboys1/status/485908801795543041

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  18. mysweetiepiepie says

    July 7, 2014 at 4:36 pm

    I always make very, very sure that instructions are well understood before a task is begun.

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  19. Amy @ The Nifty Foodie says

    July 7, 2014 at 7:56 pm

    I like to make to-do lists, and spread tasks out to make things manageable!

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  20. courtney b says

    July 9, 2014 at 7:39 am

    i take lots of medicine! lol i know that sounds horrible but sometimes you need it when you have a super stressful life…which I totally do working full time with lots of kids running around!

    Reply
  21. courtney b says

    July 9, 2014 at 7:40 am

    tweet

    https://twitter.com/MeandBells/status/486882367382904833

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  22. amy pugmire says

    July 10, 2014 at 12:00 am

    I try to stick to a schedule and line things up at night to make my mornings less stressful.

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  23. amy pugmire says

    July 10, 2014 at 12:01 am

    https://twitter.com/1amypugmire/status/487129177519177728

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  24. Linda says

    July 10, 2014 at 9:50 am

    I take advantage of organizational tools and like to make lists to help me plan out my day and tackle each thing in an organized, methodical manner so I am not as overwhelmed by the often, numerous tasks I need to do daily. My family also helps out with every day chores like laundry, cleaning and making meals so it’s not all on me.

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  25. Linda says

    July 10, 2014 at 9:51 am

    Tweet – https://twitter.com/CbytheSea5/status/487277956364910592

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  26. Ellie W says

    July 10, 2014 at 4:11 pm

    I keep a chore chart and the amount of my boys’ weekly allowance depends on what chores they complete and how well they did them.

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  27. Ellie W says

    July 10, 2014 at 4:13 pm

    tweet
    https://twitter.com/eswright18/status/487373265438904320

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  28. Melissa M says

    July 13, 2014 at 11:12 am

    I keep a planner with me at all times to right down any appointments and things to do.

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  29. Melissa M says

    July 13, 2014 at 11:14 am

    https://twitter.com/618mom23boys/status/488385940511932417

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  30. rachel says

    July 15, 2014 at 7:16 am

    I have a baby so this isn’t something I’ve tackled yet!

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  31. Barbara says

    July 15, 2014 at 7:22 pm

    We make our to-do list together, and alternate between work & play. It usually works 🙂

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  32. Lisa Stone says

    July 17, 2014 at 7:52 am

    “Move the dishes!” Amen. Every time I’ve moved houses, my mother — who had four kids in six years and we moved many a time — would set up my kitchen for maximum self-service and group-help by the kids. The hours and glassware this has saved me!

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  33. Gina M says

    July 17, 2014 at 6:46 pm

    My tip is to have chores that are designated to my son, so he knows what he needs to do, and I don’t have to worry about those things in particular.

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  34. Gina M says

    July 17, 2014 at 6:48 pm

    tweet–https://twitter.com/WildOrchid985/status/489949649210322945

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  35. shelly peterson says

    July 17, 2014 at 9:17 pm

    I try to get things ready the night before so there is less to do in the mornings. I have my son pick his clothes out and have them ready. This helps a lot.

    cshell090869 at aol dot com

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  36. shelly peterson says

    July 17, 2014 at 9:19 pm

    tweeted
    https://twitter.com/cshell202/status/489987746996305921

    cshell090869 at aol dot com

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  37. anna pry says

    July 19, 2014 at 4:14 pm

    just keeping myself calm and relaxed as much as possible makes everyone’s day go smoother
    pryfamily5@gmail.com

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  38. anna pry says

    July 19, 2014 at 4:15 pm

    i tweeted https://twitter.com/thepryfamily5/status/490634753746280448 pryfamily5@gmail.com

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  39. Erica Best says

    July 21, 2014 at 4:26 pm

    i try get my bf to cook dinner with sometime so night when i need a break i let him cook so i know what he is doing

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  40. Erica Best says

    July 21, 2014 at 4:27 pm

    https://twitter.com/purplelover04/status/491362362755416064

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  41. Natalie J Vandenberghe says

    July 22, 2014 at 4:23 pm

    I’m not sure I have much of value to contribute here…I love your tips/solutions and the problems sounded familiar! My youngest is 16 and I recently told my husband we needed to give him more responsibility because he seems to think he has free time. LOL – seriously, he’s a good kid, but I wanted him to finish his laundry and clean his room before he left the house. I didn’t like that I was perceived as a nagger, either. I felt like if everyone (including husband) did what I asked the first time I asked, I wouldnt’ be repeating myself! anyway, I loved your post. I’m going to pass it on to my oldest daughter, the mother of my grandsons.

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  42. Natalie J Vandenberghe says

    July 22, 2014 at 4:29 pm

    Tweet! https://twitter.com/lexiquin/status/491726456352161792

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  43. Margot C says

    July 25, 2014 at 1:16 pm

    I too have a chore list, but it’s for my husband; really cuts down on the unnecessary back and forth about who needs to do what.

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  44. Margot C says

    July 25, 2014 at 2:14 pm

    Plus a tweet: https://twitter.com/AnnaZed/status/492779811312394240

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  45. Ashley H says

    July 28, 2014 at 5:24 pm

    I make lists at the beginning of the day so I don’t get so overwhelmed.

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  46. Debbie B says

    July 28, 2014 at 9:05 pm

    i take things one day at a time – no need for chaos!

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  47. Debbie B says

    July 28, 2014 at 9:06 pm

    i posted a tweet: https://twitter.com/bellows22/status/493970759992094720

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  48. Betty C says

    July 29, 2014 at 8:07 am

    I make lots of lists. Because I tend to be quite forgetful I have the same list in several places. Without my lists I might never have clean clothes or food on the table 🙂

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  49. Betty C says

    July 29, 2014 at 8:08 am

    Tweet – https://twitter.com/willitara/status/494137318672842752

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  50. Dandi D says

    July 29, 2014 at 8:08 pm

    I have various stools around the house so my son can be involved in what I’m doing and also do some things for himself.

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  51. Dandi D says

    July 29, 2014 at 8:09 pm

    I shared on Twitter: https://twitter.com/dandidaffyhill/status/494318296972267520

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  52. Stacey Dalton says

    July 29, 2014 at 11:52 pm

    I like to teach with reward charts. I have a weekly list of chores. If they get done in a timely way, then the rewards add up faster

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  53. Cori Westphal says

    July 30, 2014 at 8:20 am

    I keep everything that I need to do in my calender in my phone. That way I get alerts for all the things I need to do!

    coriwestphal at msn dot com

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  54. Cori Westphal says

    July 30, 2014 at 8:28 am

    Tweet: https://twitter.com/coriwestphal/status/494504756849561600

    coriwestphal at msn dot com

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  55. Sarah L says

    July 31, 2014 at 3:09 pm

    I finally organized my kitchen so that things are near where I need them. Helps a lot.
    Thanks for the contest.

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  56. Sarah L says

    July 31, 2014 at 3:13 pm

    https://twitter.com/slehan/status/494968947825864706

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  57. Tabathia B says

    July 31, 2014 at 3:24 pm

    I have a breakfast and dinner menu to keep me on schedule in mornings and evenings

    tbarrettno1 at gmail dot com

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  58. Tabathia B says

    July 31, 2014 at 3:26 pm

    tweet https://twitter.com/ChelleB36/status/494972218938380288

    tbarrettno1 at gmail dot com

    Reply
  59. maria cantu says

    July 31, 2014 at 9:35 pm

    I make lists for everything.

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