What’s going on at your house right now? At ours there is way too much irritation, nagging and reminding coming from me. YUCK! The worst part is I know better! Whenever I get into one of these not so great cycles I know it’s time for a reboot. Once I’m on a positive (and patient) page, the entire house seems to settle into a more cooperative and happy place.
Luckily I have some incredible (and fairly simple) solutions to turn get moving in the right direction quickly …
and I’d like to share them with you.
Positive Parenting Solutions for a YELL FREE Home
Take care of you. You’ve heard that before right? You can’t be a positive influence on the family unless you are taking care of yourself. Make sure to schedule me time activities into your busy day.
Replace the yelling. I’m actually not much of a yeller, it’s just not one of my parenting challenges (don’t worry I have plenty of others), but I do know a great trick for getting kids to hear you without yelling. For the times when the purpose of yelling is be heard ABOVE the rest of the noise, try whispering instead. It sounds crazy, I know. Try it anyway. You’ll be surprised how quiet the room gets when they have to work to hear what you have to say.
Find someone to talk to. Even really small parenting issues can feel so big when you’re dealing with them on your own. Think about friends or family members that you can talk to who won’t just be an ear, but will also help you come up with ideas to try. You can also pop over to the Confident Parenting Facebook group and share your specific parenting challenges with others parents who are actively working to become better.
Learn new techniques. Read books that focus on better ways to communicate than yelling. Here are some popular books that do just that; Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids
Set up routines around trouble areas. Take a minute to think about the times that you are doing the most yelling and nagging. Could the way you are doing certain tasks be part of the problem? If so, work on forming new routines around those tasks. It’s a way of preventing the issue so you don’t even have to think about your attitude in the moment.
Get down on their level. This is one of my favorite parenting tricks and it’s so simple!!! Two things will happen when you get down on your kid’s level (click on that link… the visual is incredible). First you will be looking at your little love right in the face… still think yelling will come easy? Second they will be able to hear you. Take that one step further by gently placing their hands on your cheeks. They can’t help look you straight in the eye.
Have you been in the nagging or yelling trap lately?
Books That Have Made All The difference In My Parenting
These parenting books (and self improvement books) have helped me become a more grounded and happier person/parent. These are affiliate links.
- The Miracle Morning: The Not-So-Obvious Secret Guaranteed to Transform Your Life (Before 8AM)
— This book helped me find the why behind my day to day parenting journey and ensures that I get me time before the kids are even up.
- The Family Board Meeting
— This one is all about creating quality one on one time. I’ve read the book and scheduled our first board meetings. We are all excited!
— This book helped me find the why behind my day to day parenting journey and ensures that I get me time before the kids are even up.
— This one is all about creating quality one on one time. I’ve read the book and scheduled our first board meetings. We are all excited!
A good read. Not yelling and whispering is a trick that has working for me most of the time. It is sort of spooky and LO will settle down to hear what I am whispering. funny..:-)
My kids have a problem with indoor outdoor play inside they go crazy like wild animals they can’t stay still they fight its crazy but when I take them outside to run an play get there energy out they simply wander in space an don’t do anything but walk or even sit by me most of the time I try to play with them they have balls an bike toys chalk everything but they won’t play there backwards help me
I have had this happen before with my kids. It’s so weird but until they found friends their own age that they wanted to play with, they didn’t want to even go outside. Don’t know the ages of our kids but try different games, hide and seek, tag, sports, other kids, or parks. I had to force mine to go outside and they still come inside 1000 times but they are better!
Love this SO! SO! much!!!! Pinned and shared in my Facebook business page.
Thank you Alana <3
Yeh…my problem area with my son is getting him to finish his h.w…seems like he looses track in a few secs…phewwww
Hi Alana ,
Thanks for the resource, i will apply for my son.
My worst time of day is in the morning. I’m yelling at my younger son to get ready so that we can leave on time. He either refuses to get ready or will play and run around the house. It sets the tone for the rest of the day when the morning is so stressful. Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated.
You might try listening to the following webinar. It can be viewed for 3 more days. It is with “PositiveParentingSolutions.com ”
Hope this helps, Kathy
http://event.on24.com/wcc/r/1389688/814209681208D6725011F35B427391BA
After reading this, I considered myself as positive mom. Seriously, I never yelled at my daughter. Thank you!