What’s going on at your house right now? At ours there is way too much irritation, nagging and reminding coming from me. YUCK! The worst part is I know better! Whenever I get into one of these not so great cycles I know it’s time for a reboot. Once I’m on a positive (and patient) page, the entire house seems to settle into a more cooperative and happy place.
Luckily I have some incredible (and fairly simple) solutions to turn get moving in the right direction quickly …
and I’d like to share them with you.
Positive Parenting Solutions for a YELL FREE Home
Take care of you. You’ve heard that before right? You can’t be a positive influence on the family unless you are taking care of yourself. Make sure to schedule me time activities into your busy day.
Replace the yelling. I’m actually not much of a yeller, it’s just not one of my parenting challenges (don’t worry I have plenty of others), but I do know a great trick for getting kids to hear you without yelling. For the times when the purpose of yelling is be heard ABOVE the rest of the noise, try whispering instead. It sounds crazy, I know. Try it anyway. You’ll be surprised how quiet the room gets when they have to work to hear what you have to say.
Find someone to talk to. Even really small parenting issues can feel so big when you’re dealing with them on your own. Think about friends or family members that you can talk to who won’t just be an ear, but will also help you come up with ideas to try. You can also pop over to the Confident Parenting Facebook group and share your specific parenting challenges with others parents who are actively working to become better.
Learn new techniques. Read books that focus on better ways to communicate than yelling. Here are some popular books that do just that; Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids, Yell Less, Love More, and If I Have to Tell You One More Time…. (affiliate links)
Set up routines around trouble areas. Take a minute to think about the times that you are doing the most yelling and nagging. Could the way you are doing certain tasks be part of the problem? If so, work on forming new routines around those tasks. It’s a way of preventing the issue so you don’t even have to think about your attitude in the moment.
Get down on their level. This is one of my favorite parenting tricks and it’s so simple!!! Two things will happen when you get down on your kid’s level (click on that link… the visual is incredible). First you will be looking at your little love right in the face… still think yelling will come easy? Second they will be able to hear you. Take that one step further by gently placing their hands on your cheeks. They can’t help look you straight in the eye.
Have you been in the nagging or yelling trap lately?
Books That Have Made All The difference In My Parenting
These parenting books (and self improvement books) have helped me become a more grounded and happier person/parent. These are affiliate links.
- The Miracle Morning: The Not-So-Obvious Secret Guaranteed to Transform Your Life (Before 8AM) — This book helped me find the why behind my day to day parenting journey and ensures that I get me time before the kids are even up.
- The Family Board Meeting — This one is all about creating quality one on one time. I’ve read the book and scheduled our first board meetings. We are all excited!